EFT Helps You Commit Yourself to Your Life

EFT After An Accident Leads to Huge New Insights

Early last October, I broke my femur and a bone in my hand. I had just bought my daughter a bike from someone in the neighborhood and ridden it home. In the driveway, starting to dismount, my foot got caught in the toe clip and I just fell over and landed on my hip—and I guess my hand automatically went out to try to stop the fall. Wow, that hurt—especially in my leg! Fortunately, my husband had followed me home in his car, and when he saw me fall, he jumped out, and our neighbor across the street ran over. I felt awful—nauseated and woozy and I passed out for a few seconds. Fortunately, the ambulance came quickly and I was in surgery that day where a doctor put in three pins.

The interesting thing (to me anyway) is that, for several weeks after the accident, I felt that I couldn’t quite get back into the physical. Whenever I thought about the event, there was an echo of that awful nauseated, lightheaded, spinny feeling . When I worked on it with EFT, I saw myself floating way, way up in space. The earth was far, far down and I was attached to the earth by a very long umbilical cord. In a way, it felt good to float up there—no responsibilities, no worries, nothing heavy, just floating peacefully. I felt spacey and not hooked into my life. That feeling was seductive. Something about it felt wrong, though. But I couldn’t figure out how to get back down to the earth, back down to being in my physical self and in my life.

A Solution Appears

Suddenly it occurred to me that I could pull myself down by the umbilical cord, and I did that. When I was down on the earth, I was once again grabbed by gravity, and the umbilical cord whooshed into the earth like one of those dog leashes that keep your dog next to you. Once down here again, and really feeling that I was solidly on the earth, I got the message that it was up to me to consciously commit myself to my life—or not. I decided I really do want to be here, to be closely connected to my husband, children, grandchildren, friends, clients, the walks I take, the articles I write, the books I read, the trees, flowers, snow, my car, my house—everything! It was—and still is—an exciting feeling, to really commit to being here and appreciating and enjoying it all. I also suddenly “got” how to trust life in a way I had never trusted before.

EFT Helps Heal the After-Effects of Surgery

This kind of thing happens to many people, the sudden inability to commit yourself to your life. For example, after one of my past clients was back in her room after surgery, she suddenly couldn’t breathe. She couldn’t even gasp and she definitely couldn’t call out. Fortunately, her friend was in the room and saw what was happening and called a nurse. My client felt trapped in her body and then she felt that it was too much to stay here. She felt herself fading out. For a long time after that, she couldn’t stay attached to her life anymore. It was too hard to deal with all the painful events happening in her life. She felt she was just done with being on the earth and that she’d rather be with God. When we talked some more, she remembered that God is always there every day in her life and she was the one who had lost her awareness of the connection. We used EFT to work through the trauma of the surgery and other related events, and she had a big breakthrough, reconnecting with her joy in being alive on the earth.

Somewhere inside and outside, we all have a connection with something that loves us unconditionally and knows everything about us. It’s always there, but we can lose our conscious access to it. You can lose the access to commit yourself to your life. The good thing is that the knowledge of how to reconnect is in each of us, just waiting for us to notice. For this woman, the beginning was to remember that, in the past, she had felt the connection when she was reading the holy book of her religion. Thinking about reading it again was already helping her to feel the connection to some extent.

The Death of a Loved One Can Make it Hard to Commit Yourself to Your Life

A long time ago, one of my teachers talked about his experience after his father died. He felt drawn to go with his father. All the people he knew and all the things he was doing in his life had lost their meaning and he had lost his sense of connection with any of it. He was drifting, not really here, partly already gone to be with his father. He, too, had to find a way to re-commit to being here on the planet, in his daily life.

It seems that this experience of losing connection with our life energy, losing a sense of the meaning of things is a frequent experience for people that have come close to death or have lost someone very close to them. This also can happen when we experience trauma, loss, or one difficulty after another—a time when we don’t feel we can make it through. We begin to drift away from life.

An Exercise

One way to find the meaning again is to notice the feeling you’re having—disconnection, not caring, drifting, fading out, whatever it is. Just notice it with one of the following questions in your mind:

  • When did I lose my sense of meaning or commitment to life? What happened just before that?
  • How was I aware of connection to my life at that point, before I lost connection? (Was it love of something or someone, passion in your work or something you were doing, a sense of wonder about being in the world? What was it?) What helped me feel truly connected?
  • Think about that experience, that feeling of love of life, of commitment to what you were doing or being. Think about the feeling in great detail. You’ll notice that, as you’re thinking about it, you’re getting a bit (or a lot) of that feeling right now. Stay with that feeling and let it grow.
  • Ask yourself what you can do to nurture it and then notice what comes to you immediately after that. Even if it seems crazy or strange or stupid—THAT is the answer.

Using EFT Tapping along with the above exercise really helps unknown resolutions to appear. Sometimes it’s hard to do this yourself. If you’d like some help, you can contact me for a session. Check out my webpage on alleviating the effects of Stress and Trauma .

 

Ask Zoe: What is PTSD and How Do You Work with It?

Jeanine recently asked, “What is PTSD and how do you work with it?

healing-stress-healing-traumaWhen most of us experience a threatening, scary or painful event, our energy systems and nervous systems are zapped and, almost inevitably, emotional and/or physical symptoms automatically begin. Usually, they don’t subside until we do specific work to alleviate them. The complex of emotional and physical symptoms that start happening after one of these scary, threatening or painful events is called PTSD—Posttraumatic Stress Disorder.

I’ve been trained in various ways of working with PTSD symptoms: Process Work, a trauma method similar to Somatic Experiencing and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). In my over 25 years’ experience as a psychotherapist, I’ve found EFT to be the most effective, by far, in resolving the emotional pain that often follows painful experiences and painful childhood family patterns–in other words, PTSD. So that’s how I work with it. PTSD creates a painful “charge” in the nervous system. Clients often find that, where before they would be overwhelmed by emotional pain and even physical pain, after a short time using EFT, when they think  about a traumatic incident or painful family pattern, it’s like it’s far away or like watching a movie.  There’s no painful emotion attached to it anymore. They also find that their lives and relationships become much freer, too.

If you’d like to know more, read my past blog posts, EFT Helps with PTSD and  EFT Helps With PTSD, Part 3    .

Wishing you a free and joyous life,

Zoe