EFT for After-Effects of Accidents

Most people who have been in a vehicular accident—car, bike, whatever—notice that after that, they’re more nervous on the road—some people even feel panic or unexplained anger. That’s because, when something scary like that happens, our nervous systems automatically go into “threat mode.” No matter how much we tell ourselves that it was an accident, it’s over, it’s not likely to happen again, our nervous system is saying, “It happened once, now I have to be alert all the time.” This is PTSD.

Accidents Create Nervous System Defensive Responses

Most accidents, by their very nature, happen very quickly. A lot is going on all at once, and our body and emotions are trying to react to all of it, but they can’t. The reactions are called “defensive responses.” Think of taking a martial arts class: somebody comes at you and you go into a defensive posture and as they make contact, you follow through with your defense. You’re learning how to do that in the class, and you practice by doing it slowly, over and over.

When you’re in an accident, something is coming at you, and your body and emotions automatically try to move into defense, but they don’t get a chance to follow through on anything. Many defensive responses get stuck—and stay stuck—inside you. That’s why you have those automatic flinches and shots of adrenaline going through you in traffic.

Clients Who Have Had Accidents

One person I know gets these shots of adrenaline when she’s a passenger in a car and the driver gets too close to the car ahead—she once had an airbag go off in her face. When she’s sitting in the front passenger seat, she also pushes the seat back as far as it will go.

A client who had been hit by a car on her bike when the car suddenly swerved into her lane could not face going through the intersection near where it happened. She not only had trouble riding her bike, she was constantly having near-panic reactions whenever anyone came from the left.

Automatic Fear Reactions After Accidents Persist

These are “normal” automatic reactions after accidents, and they don’t tend to go away. If a person has had more than one accident, the nervous system reactions tend to get stronger over time.

 EFT Tapping is Effective for Healing Accident After-Effects

I’ve used EFT Tapping with a number of people who have been involved in accidents—cars, bicycles, falling, and others. I’ve found that EFT is extremely effective in helping people get over the nervous system after-effects: phobias, fears, nervousness, anxiety, panic, difficulty sleeping, intrusive memories of the accident, unexplainable anger, physical pain and emotional pain. In my experience, they are all quite quickly alleviated with EFT.

For more information on how EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) works, see my EFT and EFT Case Studies pages, and my page on Stress & Trauma.

Wishing you a free and joyous life,

Zoe

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Deep Self-Acceptance makes EFT so Effective

Deep Self-Acceptance with EFT

In Process Work (created by Arnold Mindell, Ph.D.), there’s a great concept called “Deep Democracy.” I love this idea! As we all know, democracy means allowing all voices to be heard. Looked at globally, Deep Democracy means we become aware of and welcome the views of all nations, even those that have little power. Nationally, it means that we become aware of and embrace the views of all our groups of people, even those who are in the minority. In our families and businesses, we listen to those who are lowest in rank (the “little guys” and—in families—the children) and seriously take their wants, needs and opinions into account when making decisions that affect them. And inside of us, it means that we become aware of and truly embrace all parts of ourselves—even those parts that we’ve been ashamed of or have been told aren’t right or good—and we’ve believed that.

 Benefits of Deep Democracy & Emotional Freedom

The benefit of living in a Deep Democracy way is that the little countries, minorities, and less powerful in families thrive too. The other benefit is that, with the “lesser” countries and people thriving, the more powerful thrive even more, and in more ways. And inside ourselves, when we become aware of and welcome in parts that we’ve rejected, we become freer and happier. Think about it!

 Deep Self-Acceptance=EFT’s Effectiveness

In EFT terms, we “deeply and completely accept” a part of us we’ve seen as troublesome, disturbing or “bad.” I believe that’s what makes EFT so amazingly effective. For example, usually when we have a physical pain, we want to get rid of it as quickly as possible. But if the pain is not only a pain but also there for something (see my blog post, Getting to the Root of Physical Pain with EFT), just trying to get rid of it could make the “something” pop up in another form. Often, incorporating the message behind it into our lives gives space for the pain to go.

EFT–Emotional Pain Builds Up in Your Body

Emotional pain is similar. If you’ve had painful, scary or traumatic experiences in your life and you try to push them into the background, they don’t go away; they’re just buried and affect your work, your relationships, and your ability to deal with new difficulties with creativity and flexibility. The effects of these experiences build up in your nervous system and affect your body and your emotional health.

Embracing Deep Self-Acceptance with EFT

When in EFT we say “Even though I have this shoulder pain” or “even though I’m full of rage (sadness, fear, grief), I deeply and completely accept myself,” we’re practicing Deep Democracy inside of us. We’re putting our arms around the part of us that’s been hurt and loving ourselves with that part. Anyone who has the experience of someone listening to and taking their pain seriously feels better and is then ready for further healing. That’s true inside of us, too.

For more on my work helping to create emotional freedom with EFT, see my website pages on EFT and EFT Case Studies.

Wishing you a free and joyous life,

Zoë

EFT with Physical Pain

Getting to the Root of Pain with EFT

Just as we need to get to the core issue with emotional trauma, when we’re dealing with physical pain, we usually need to find the emotional pain that’s at the root of it. And just as with emotionally painful issues, there are a number of ways to get at the emotional trauma root of physical pain. Below I’ll talk about two of them.

EFT Process–Finding the Root of Physical Pain

When Did it Start?

Often, an emotionally painful event occurs either right before a physical pain starts, or it could have happened up to six months before. For example, I had a client who had been suffering from stomach pain for a couple of weeks solid. When I asked him what had been happening before it started, he said that several weeks before, his old boss was replaced by a new boss, who was demeaning to him. This made him worry that his own supervisees would no longer respect him, which could have long-term negative effects in his own job. When used EFT Tapping on the various emotions this situation triggered, the stomach pain went away completely.

EFT & Emotional Healing

Getting at the experience of the pain

With pain, it’s useful to think of it this way: there are two parts of you

  • the victim of the pain, the one who’s feeling it
  • the “pain maker.”

We’re trying to get at the goal of the pain maker. First, let’s think of the pain maker as a part of you that is totally on your side and is trying to help you bring something into your life that you haven’t been aware of yet. I know, that’s a new way to look at it, but bear with me. Say you have a headache. We would have you describe the pain. You might say it’s like a hammer pounding on the side of your head. The pain maker is the hammer. Now, if you assume there’s something right about that and you become the hammer, you can pound on something while thinking about why the “regular” you is needing you, the hammer, to pound like that. As you pound for a bit, you might realize that you’re a judge pounding her gavel. You’re a judge that has no difficulty in making clear, quick decisions.

EFT Tapping on What We Discover

Now we can tap. I bet the above person has trouble making decisions or asserting herself—otherwise, she wouldn’t have needed the hammer to draw her attention to the issue. Now we can go into detail about how this appears in her life and then tap on this difficulty making decisions, being clear about what she wants, or standing up for what she needs using Emotional Freedom Techniques.

For more information on working with pain, see my website pages on EFT Case Studies and specifically EFT Case Studies with Physical Pain and Physical Illness.

This is Part II of II. To see Part I, go to How to Get to the Core with EFT

Wishing you a free and joyous life!
Zoe