Accepted “Wisdom” is that Phobias are Difficult to Alleviate
In the “psychology world,” it’s often said that phobias are really difficult to change. Usually, phobias are really entrenched. For people with this kind of anxiety, when they’re faced with what they’re afraid of—spiders, heights, small spaces, flying, test taking, and any number of other anxieties—they often feel they’re going to die. For the rest of us who aren’t afraid of these things, it seems like no big deal, so it’s hard to understand why someone would be so terrified. But for the person who has the phobia, it just IS and it can’t be argued away.
For a description of how phobias work in us, affecting our nervous system and causing emotional pain, see my article on Examiner.com, Phobias Often Disappear after Using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).
EFT is Effective With Phobias
Interestingly, I’ve found that, using EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), a phobia can disappear with relatively few sessions. A while ago, I had a client who had a phobia, huge anxiety around thunderstorms. It would start when she saw the black clouds massing. She’d have a horrendous feeling of dread. Then, when she saw lightning or heard thunder, panic overcame her and she would run to a room in the middle of wherever she lived—this was often a bathroom with or middle room with no windows—and cower there until the storm was over. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t get over the fear. It had been going on for over 20 years.
EFT Tapping on the Storm Phobia: Dread
I started by asking my client detailed questions about her specific reactions to specific parts of storms to get at the different aspects of the phobia, and the incidents in her life and/or childhood family patterns that were the origins of what caused anxiety. We used EFT Tapping on these specific incidents and dissolved the connections between the incidents and negative childhood family dynamics. The dread that accompanied seeing dark clouds massing was completely gone after only a couple of sessions. This was connected to two areas:
- Childhood abuse that happened again and again and the tension and dread that would build up waiting for the abuse to happen.
- Her husband was in the armed forces fighting a war. Whenever she heard the door bell ring, there was dread that it was officers coming to tell her her husband had died.
EFT Tapping on the Phobia: Healing the Terror of Lightning
The panic that sent my client hiding in a central, windowless room whenever she saw lightning and hear a boom of thunder was more difficult to alleviate. But, using EFT, the emotional pain was finally gone completely. This was related to:
- A shocking assault on her as an adult; the feeling of helplessness
- The violence and forcefulness of recurring physical abuse during childhood
- The suddenness of being attacked by her parent.
- The feeling of helplessness when she was being attacked by her parent.
After having worked on all these aspects surrounding the panic, one day, she was in her kitchen looking out the window when she saw a flash of lightning. She noticed later that it didn’t even register. A few days later, she was outside when suddenly heard a thunder clap. She calmly finished what she was doing in the garden before going in the house. This was huge!
EFT for the Feeling of Not Having Control
The final thing that we were left with was that, even though she realized she wasn’t afraid anymore those two times, she didn’t trust that she would always feel that way if a storm would come. She felt she needed to test it. She said “part of me wants a really close lightning and thunderstorm so I can be sure. It turned out that, unconsciously, she wanted a feeling of control. She wanted to be able to bring it on to see how she would react. This related, again, to her parent’s sudden attacks. Just like many abused children and adults, she learned that she couldn’t control the fact of the physical abuse, but she could, to some extent, bring on the attacks to get the fear and tension over with. With thunder and lightning storms, she had no control—she couldn’t bring them on to get them over with. At this point, the season for thunderstorms was over. There was no way to test it. We did some EFT Tapping for inability to control the timing of thunderstorms . Through this, she suddenly accepted she has no control.
EFT Healed the Phobia Around Thunderstorms
Some months later she wrote that one day she was having dinner, a giant bolt of lightning “lit the whole world in front of me. It was so close that the thunder clap followed before I could even think one-mississippi.” She stayed calm and continued eating. “Maybe the whole show was just for me,” she wrote, “so I wouldn’t have to wait until next spring to see if the EFT worked. Which-ever, work it seems to have done!”
Getting that note really touched me and gave me a feeling of gratitude. EFT works with phobias and many other issues. If you need help, give contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at 303-444-1195. Check out my website for more information, especially my pages on EFT and EFT Case Studies.
Wishing you a free and joyous life!